“A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son brings grief to his mother.”
Two parents sat on a large sofa cradling a newborn baby, looking very happy 
This proverb from the book of Proverbs cuts right to the chase about how a child’s actions profoundly affect their parents. When it speaks of a “wise” son, it’s not just about academic cleverness or quick wit. It refers to someone who consistently makes good choices, acts with integrity, and shows sound judgment in life. This kind of child brings immense happiness and a deep sense of pride to their father. Their thoughtful and responsible decisions reflect well on their upbringing, leading to positive outcomes that fill their parents with contentment.
Conversely, a “foolish” son is someone who acts impulsively, makes poor decisions, or disregards good counsel. Their actions often lead to negative consequences, causing distress, worry, and significant sadness, particularly for their mother. This isn’t about a lack of love, but the heavy emotional burden of witnessing a child stray from a path of well-being and purpose. It’s a challenging experience for any parent to see their child struggle due to misguided choices.
This ancient saying holds remarkable relevance in our modern lives. It serves as a potent reminder that our choices and behaviours have a tangible impact on those who care for us most deeply – our parents. It prompts us to consider: are our actions bringing joy or grief to those who have invested so much in our lives? It encourages us to cultivate wisdom – to seek understanding, exercise good judgment, and act with integrity in all we do.
For parents, this proverb also subtly underscores the profound and enduring nature of their role. Once you become a parent, you never stop being one. We parents often carry a deep-seated concern about how our children will turn out, a worry that can last a lifetime. This verse highlights that we have a tremendous influence in shaping our children’s character during their formative years. The values we instil, the guidance we provide, and the environment we create all contribute significantly to the development of their wisdom and moral compass.
However, as children grow up, they inevitably take responsibility for their own actions. While parental influence is vast, the ultimate choices made by adult children are their own. The proverb acknowledges this journey from parental guidance to individual accountability. Ultimately, Proverbs 10:1 offers a timeless principle: living wisely leads to a flourishing life, not just for the individual, but for their wider family circle, fostering a legacy of joy rather than sorrow.
The ultimate wisdom we hope our children cultivate is the wisdom to follow Christ.
Whether you are a parent or a child, or somewhere in between, make wise choices today which you will be happy with for a lifetime.
Andy Brown 